There is something else that I have come to know lately and I think making a clear understanding of the same would be the most important thing ever. No one owes you a favor to do this or that and no matter how close you are with someone the first person they will always chose is them. this is one thing that i have been struggling with in my friendships. I always thought that we are all the same, that we would have the same drive to give out to each other just as I did. when we see friends winning, we think that they are supposed to hold us up to their business, someone not being able to stand up on a seat for you should be so clear to you that no matter what the first choice will always be them